Attitudes and confidence

1. You are the expert in your child

Professionals may have specialist knowledge in different areas but you have specialist knowledge of your child. You know your child best.  If you think a recommended strategy will not work with your child, state this, and discuss alternatives.  Share what works at home.

2. Stay positive

When teaching your child new skills, it can sometimes take time to see progress. This can cause parents to feel demoralised and can affect confidence.  Try to remain positive by writing down examples of skills you have already successfully taught your child. This should give you the confidence and motivation to persist with the tasks.

3. Be flexible

If you find that your child is really struggling to learn the new task, think of ways of amending the task and structure used.  Break the task into steps and teach one step at a time.

4. Team work

You are not alone.  The parent is one member of a large circle of support for your child.  Everyone will bring different qualities and knowledge so think about who you can ask for support and recognise that it is a strength to know when to ask for help.  Extended family, friends, voluntary organisations, health and education services will all be sources of support.

5. Enjoyment and relaxation

Make time for shared enjoyment and memories with your child.  You are first and foremost the parent, not their teacher or therapist, so make time for play, leisure and relaxation.  Share your child’s favourite interests with him or her.